Saturday, December 29, 2012

5 years...went by in a flash

Happy 5 year "Date-iversary" Bryan F Hogan! I'm glad I decided to go on another 1st date, expecting the worst but I got the best. If it wasn't for your support when I left my job (when you and I weren't even married yet) to get Joey his services, who knows where he would be? And then your support in Seattle so I could finish my degree which enabled me to have the job I have today, helping other families. I know you're waiting to be a stay at home Dad (keep waiting;)), but I know your payback comes in the form of Joey calling you "Daddy" and having him to share your love of science and space. We love you!

5 years went by in a flash, yet we have done so much. We bought a house, got married, you moved to Seattle for a year, I finished 2 graduate degrees and started a new career....all while Joey got the help he needed, learned how to use functional communication, stopped hitting himself in frustration, learned to tolerate being around others and how to socialize with other kids, learned how to make friends, became interested in others and other things (besides Legos). He has come so far and I have such high hopes for him. I used to be afraid of what the future held for him, but he shows me everyday that he is an amazing kid and is capable of so much.

This is also a milestone for us. 5 years break ups...this is the longest I've ever been in a relationship without one. I know our goal is our 4 year wedding anniversary, which will mean we are together 5 years and 5 months, beating my relationship and marriage to Ben, so I look forward to that time as well. But there is something about this 5 year mark today; it is making me nostalgic. This month marks our 5th Christmas in this house, which means it now beats out the last house as Joey's longest residence.

So many important things have happened over the last 5 years for you, Joey, and I, it's hard to put in words how I feel. I'll just say...I love you, B, and we could not have done all that we have without you!

Love, Me
Forever and Ever Babe!

30 years?

(Written 12/4/2012)

All day, I've been thinking that we got our family dog 20 years ago today. I was thinking all day "Happy 20th Birthday in Heaven, Ollie." what the hell was I thinking? It was 1982, not 1992, that we got Ollie!!

Makes me think how fast time goes and how things that seem so major now won't be so major in just a matter of time. I'm learning this lesson a lot lately.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

What's in a name?

Joey told me tonight that we need a family name and that our house needs a name, like on Adventure Time. He said that "Joey Heavy House" sounds weird. I explained that our family name is Hogan and then explained why he does not share that name. He then asked, "Then why can't I be Joey Hogan Downie?" Ahhh...the innocence of children. This isn't the first time he has asked. He does refer to Bryan as his "real Daddy" because "real daddies live with their kids." this in no way negates his love for his "Ben Daddy." These are all really good questions. He wants to understand why he isn't a "Hogan" if he is the only kid in this house and the kid of two people named Hogan. Valid question. I explained that he wasnt Bryan's natural child and he said, "I know, I'm your child." I asked him if he wanted to change his name to Hogan and he said "No." He then asked if we could call it the "Downie household" and I said "No, but we could call it the Downie/Hogan household" and he said "I was going to say that next."